Marriage Counselors Sydney

Hello welcome to Marriage Counselors Sydney

Counseling And Psychotherapy

Jude Piercey

Bsc (hons) Psych

Grad Dip of Counselling

CM CAPA

Registered Clinical Member

Counsellors & Psychotherapists

Association (CAPA) of NSW.

Registered member of PACFA -

Pyschotherapy and Counselling

Federation of Australia

Enquiries & Appointments

Phone

0413 351 486

Counselling and Psychotherapy

When can it help?

Our lives today are busier and more

demanding than ever. At times,

everyone experiences various

forms of distress and often friends

& family can help.

However, there are times when

these problems do not go away, or

they become so overwhelming, we

struggle to cope.

This is when professional counselling

or psychotherapy can help.

What can Counselling &

Psychotherapy help with:

·       Emotional Crises - a traumatic event,

or a loss of some kind: death,

relationship ending, job loss

·       Relationships - difficulties with

partner, family, friends, work

colleagues or feeling isolated with

few, or unfulfilling relationships

·        General Moods - dissatisfaction with

life, anxiety, anger, depression, low

            self-esteem, stress, emptiness or loneliness

·       Past - childhood trauma, abuse

·       Specific Issues - eating disorders,

anxieties, physical illness, panic

ttacks and phobias

·       Unhealthy Coping – becoming withdrawn, drinking too much, losing

interest in relationships and social

activities

·       Personal Growth - to gain more from

             life, deepen understanding of self,

explore & grow.

The process

Several sessions are taken to complete an

assessment which involves exploring what

brought you to counselling, any queries you may

have and a full history in which to understand

you as a whole person. This is offered in safe,

supportive and confidential environment where

you can take the time to focus on yourself and

what is troubling you

This process itself may be enough to bring

relief and clarity to current difficulties as well

as a welcome opportunity to take stock and

receive professional feedback.

You may choose to continue counselling with

specific goals and time frame as agreed or

continue working on a longer term basis for

more complex issues and deeper changes.

Life can be better

If you would like to take that next step please

call me. I look forward to hearing from you.

­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­About Jude Piercey

I am a qualified Counseller with over

20 years experience working with

individuals, couples and families.

I am also a certified coach for group

work with children experiencing anxiety,

low self esteem, school phobias, etc.

I am a clinical member of CAPA,

the Counsellors and Psychotherapists

Association of New South Wales

and registered member of PACFA -

Pyschotherapy and Counselling

Federation of Australia.

Appointments

Appointments are held at:

21/1 Rohini Street, Turramurra.

Sessions are $100 per hour.

Please contact me on 0413-351-486

Private Health Fund Rebates

Please check with your private health

fund for details.

I wish you all the best,Jude Piercey,Marriage Counselors Sydney

Marital Fulfillment: Tips for Intercultural Couples

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Hershey_Wier]Hershey Wier

Through my personal & professional coaching practice, marital issues often come up as factors affecting a client's personal & career goals. Intercultural relationships is an area of personal experience, as my own marriage is one such relationship.  It is commonly known that these relationships have unique concerns due to differences in upbringing, culture and language.

For the vision of one person lends not its wings
to another person.

Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

The area of Japan in which my husband (Japanese) and I (American) live is a stunning example of how one spouse's vision can be starkly different from the other. This area is an ancient, rural village. If an image would help you, visualize the couple in the portrait "American Gothic." Male and female roles tend toward the traditional and are sharply delineated. One gets the sense that many relationships here, including marriages, are bound by duty and obligation.  If my partner were an American, there would be no chance that he would choose an area like this in which to settle. My Japanese husband, however, thought nothing of introducing me to his home in this remote area.

My saving grace? I had lived in Japan previously and had a reasonable  idea of what to expect in terms of male/female roles, social norms and the educational system. I would highly recommend anyone considering an intercultural marriage to take a joint trip to your partner's home country, and observe your partner interacting with family and friends. One common
reason for marital discontent is that the expatriate partner, when in his/her country of origin, can revert to cultural norms which may be unfamiliar and even offensive to  outsiders. Gender roles and attitudes are a common area in which behavior can vary between countries.

Reading about the experiences of other international couples is helpful in lending perspective to concerns that may come up in your relationship. One book I have used is  Intercultural Marriage: Promises & Pitfalls, by Dugan Romano, Intercultural Press, ©1997. Some topics covered:

values

food/drink

sex

male/female roles and rights

time management

ultimate place of residence

punctuality

politics

friends

finances

in-laws

social class

religion

raising children

language and communication

stress and conflict

illness / suffering

ethnocentricism

trailing spouse issues

death/funeral expectations

promises

helpful factors for marital success

practical considerations before taking the first step

phases of adjustment

Intercultural couples have a tendency to work harder on their marriage, since differences are expected and can be more pronounced. The couples that are most successful keep working on their concerns, learn to develop a sense of humor about small differences, and realize they are not going to see everything eye to eye. All this is to say that concerns
 are to be expected, particularly in international relationships, and you're not alone.

One more book I'd like to mention is: The Premarital Counseling Handbook, by H. Norman Wright, Moody Press, 1992. This book is meant for counselors, but I found it an easy read. What I like about this book is that it talks a bit about reasons why people choose a partner from a different culture and what the implications may be. Some people look for an escape from their current life problems or even their country. Others look for novelty, a change. Some marry out of a sense of charity, as can be the case when partnering with an immigrant or a potential emigrant in a disadvantaged situation.

Appealing stereotypes,  though often misleading, of a partner's country and people, as well as a perceived increase in status, can also serve as motives for a transcultural partnership.

A different language is a different vision of life.
--Federico Fellini

If you are living in a foreign country long term, are not familiar with the language, and are having communication concerns with your partner, you might consider picking up the language at at least a basic conversational level. Then, see if your understanding of the culture, as well as your partner, increases. I speak Japanese fairly well, and also find the written aspect fascinating. An iconic language system (such as the kanji utilized in Japanese), provides an excellent way to derive insight into Japanese culture. One book I referenced describes the kanji for "onna," or woman, as the shape of a woman pregnant with child. Other well-known kanjis that reveal Japanese culture are: "otoko," man, comprised of the kanjis strength" and "rice field." "Sensei," teacher, is made up of the kanjis meaning "born ahead/older." "Oku" in "okusan," wife,
means "in back/inside/hidden." My husband affectionately calls me "maesan," lead person/person in front, when he would like a favor from me.

And last but not least, when working issues out with your partner, do consider the power of the metaphysical world. Techniques such as kything, where you co-create positive outcomes, can be powerful in bringing solutions to seemingly
insurmountable problems. Keep your options and your mind open on the road to marital satisfaction.

Do you have questions about intercultural relationships?
 Feel free to contact me at mailAThersheywier.com (substitute @ for AT)

©2005, Hershey Wier

Hershey Wier, BS Education, MBA, is a  Career & Self-Development Specialist  specializing in holistic, creative approaches to career and life transitions. Visit http://www.HersheyWier.com

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Why Effective Law Firms is Needed to Solve Your Family Issues By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Joanna_Gadel]Joanna Gadel

Effective law firms are surely needed to solve your family issues. Family issues are delicate and need to be handle by experts in a different manner altogether. Family means a bunch of people who are close relatives and no one wants to hurt them in general. That is why the expertise is demanded not in form of a professional but also as a human being.

Family problems may vary from adoption laws, alimony, domestic violence, child abduction, post nuptial agreements, divorce, same sex marriages, bigamy, and adultery, sharing of pension, family property harassment and health issues as well. So there could be many reasons of moving to court of law for justice. For this people need an effective family law advice from effective lawyers who can help them in the best possible way with either or more of these problems.

Hence there is a need of effective law firms to solve your family issues. These law firms will are needed so that they can be interpret and decode legal terms in simpler words. This decoding will be helpful for everyone as people can understand their option in the best possible ways. In other words good family lawyer can make a family understand about the outcome of situation.

It needs to be mentioned in this regard that the successful lawyers have another quality which is being compassionate towards people. They will help their clients in the right way and help them take a proper call. On one hand they can help their clients find a new home if they are thrown out of the house and fight for their rights. Besides they may also help save a marriage other than that! Well to be honest this is a protocol of the legal profession.

Additionally an effective lawyer while solving your family issues will be able to support you all through. This is another practice followed by reliable legal professionals all across the world. They need to comprehend and ease the tension already created in their clients life due to a family strife. Probably that is why they are called counselors as they need to act as one.

There could be thousands of reasons for a family feud but a multitude of good law enforcers can really help people clarify any kind of misunderstanding. In fact a good team of lawyers can do wonders with legality to rekindle family values in their clients. It is not only about an out of court settlement but also about being a beneficial resource to the society and its people in the real sense of the word. In short an effective law firm can do to a lot to solve your family issues.

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10 Ways to Keep Divorce Lawyers From Ruining Your Life By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Lee_Rosen]Lee Rosen

Everyone has heard the story (from friends, co-workers, and family members) of the divorce from hell; the one that grinds on for years, costs untold thousands of dollars, and frustratingly plods its way through the court system.  It costs people not only their marriage, but often their children, their savings, and their emotional well-being, as well.  Unfortunately, many people going through a divorce end up hating their lawyer, and more commonly, hating their spouse's lawyer.  It doesn't have to be that way. You can get a divorce without letting lawyers ruin your life. Using the ten tips outlined below will make a huge difference in the way your divorce progresses. It's hard to behave rationally as you navigate this painful process, but the vast majority of people find the strength to get through a divorce without losing control of their emotions or finances. You can control the process and guide the matter to a successful solution, leaving your financial situation intact and allowing you to meet your needs now and in the future.

The reality is that lawyers are people, and like people, there are some awful ones out there and a few wonderful ones. When you hire an awful lawyer (one who creates conflict rather than resolving it, one who makes your divorce worse, rather than better) everybody involved suffers. You suffer, your spouse suffers and your children suffer. Well, not everybody suffers.  The awful lawyer doesn't suffer, so it's important to do everything possible to avoid hiring that lawyer, because that's the only sure way to keep divorce lawyers from ruining your life.  Here's how:



1.     Don't hire the wrong lawyer. The lawyer you hire makes a tremendous difference. Use common sense in the selection process. Be observant, ask questions, and don't hire someone if you don't feel good about your interaction with him or her. Here are some things to think about in an initial meeting with a lawyer:  1) does the lawyer have a direct dial phone number?   You can assume that if you have to go through a secretary or paralegal to reach your lawyer, you will have a harder time reaching him or her; 2) watch out for a messy office;   if the lawyer is disorganized you can assume your case will be disorganized. If you see other clients' documents sitting out in public view, you can know that your documents will soon be sitting out in public the same way; 3) make sure the lawyer has a written client agreement that ensures that you understand your fees, rights and obligations; 4) don't hire the dabbler - someone that does a traffic ticket case in the morning, a real estate closing in the afternoon and squeezes your case in somewhere in the middle; divorce is complicated enough that you should hire someone who does it all day long, every day;   and, 5) don't hire a lawyer taking on more cases than s/he can handle; ask the lawyer what his or her average caseload is.  Handling more than 15 or 20 cases at one time causes most lawyers to become overwhelmed and ineffective. Thinking about these issues when you meet with a lawyer for the first time will help you make the right choice.

2.      Don't let a judge decide for you.  The minute you (or your spouse) go to court and ask a judge to decide your divorce for you, you give up nearly all of the control you have over the process.  If you want to keep your money instead of giving it to a lawyer, and if you want to maintain control over your life, DO NOT LITIGATE. Go to court only as a last resort, only if all else fails.   Try negotiation, try mediation, try collaborative divorce, try settlement conferences but do not litigate. You may win at trial, but at what cost?   Will you be able to dance with your former spouse at your child's wedding?   Probably not. Litigation is destructive, expensive and gut wrenching. Litigate only if you have no other option.   Litigation is, unfortunately, necessary in some cases. There will always be people that just can not agree no matter how hard you try. Reserve litigation for the most desperate situations.

3.      Do hire a collaborative divorce lawyer (and get your spouse to do the same thing).    Now you know you want to stay out of court.  Do you want your situation to be resolved as efficiently, effectively, and successfully as possible? Of course. That's the way collaborative divorce lawyers handle divorces.   In a collaborative divorce, everyone involved (lawyers and clients) signs a written pledge to keep your case out of court. This keeps everyone involved truly focused on reaching a mutually beneficial agreement, without threatening costly and destructive litigation.

4.      Don't hire a mediator without getting legal advice first.   Often, people think that hiring a mediator is a substitute for hiring a lawyer in trying to resolve their divorce.  The critical mistake these people are making is this:  mediators can not give legal advice.  Their role is only to help people agree; the drawback is that they may help you agree to something that you would not have agreed to if you had sought legal advice first.  Timing is everything here:  using a mediator can be effective in resolving a divorce, you should never, ever hire a mediator without first obtaining legal advice from a lawyer whose only role is to represent your best interests.  In fact, any good mediator will insist that you go and get legal advice before any agreement is reached, anyway.   If you choose to mediate your dispute, get the legal advice before you begin mediation. It is more efficient and safer.

5.      Don't sign a blank check. Signing an agreement with a lawyer that calls for hourly billing is like signing a blank check. Be careful. Let's face facts - hourly billing encourages what? Billing!   Find a lawyer who can tell you what your case will cost. The only way to be certain of your attorney fee is to get a firm commitment on a fixed fee. Short of a fixed fee you need frequent updates on the costs that you have incurred (if it were our money we would want daily, real-time, updates over the internet) and we would want the authority to accept or reject any action that would result in our paying more money. It just doesn't make sense to give someone the economic incentive to make your life miserable by dragging things out. Doctors don't bill hourly - they charge you a fixed fee for your office visit or your surgery. Lawyers want you to believe that they can't predict your fee. If they won't tell you how much it costs then don't buy it.

6.      Do a cost-benefit analysis.   In divorce, it is easy to get caught up in the emotion and make all of your decisions from that vantage point.  This can be a mistake though; spending some time analyzing your case from a logical, cost-benefit perspective can pay dividends.  Keep your eye on the ball and stay focused on getting the divorce finished so you can move on with your life.  It is not uncommon for divorcing people to do things like spend $500 to get a $100 microwave oven. Don't do it. If you can't see a clear connection between your actions and achieving a final resolution of your case, then don't take that action.

7.      Do know your priorities.   Frequently people going through a divorce find that their priorities change throughout the process.  The things that they thought were most important when they began the process are not necessarily the same things that are most important at the conclusion.  It is important that you review your priorities regularly, with your lawyer or on your own, so that you are always mindful of things that matter to you most.  Staying on top of your own priorities allows you to keep your lawyer informed and better use the divorce process to obtain the results that your care most passionately about.

8.      Do remain flexible.  One of the most common mistakes people make when they begin a divorce is to decide that they absolutely, positively must have A, B, and C, and nothing else will be sufficient.  Remaining flexible in the divorce process allows you to critically and impartially analyze all of the issues as they arise.  This is especially true for people who have reviewed their priorities throughout the process (see # 7 above).  Knowing what you want, and being flexible in your approach to getting it, can often mean the difference between success and frustration.

9.     Do stay involved.   When you hire your lawyer, don't simply hand control of your life over to him or her and walk away.   Your divorce is critical to you, and it's too important to be delegated away and ignored.   Stay abreast of developments on a daily basis.   Find a lawyer who wants you to be as involved as you do.  Two things to look for in a lawyer who wants to keep clients involved:  same day delivery to you of all documents that come in or go out of the lawyer's office (email is a great option for this) and 24/7 access to your case file.   Ideally, your file will be available on an extranet on your lawyer's website.   If you can access your credit card and bank statements online, your divorce file should be online, on your lawyer's website, as well. Many lawyers use technology to make your life less stressful and more convenient; find one who uses the latest technology to help you stay involved.  Involved clients are able to maintain control, reduce anxiety and make better judgments about their future, which helps them to reach positive outcomes in their divorce.

10.  Do educate yourself.   Knowledge can be your greatest ally.  Research the divorce laws of your state, whether through a local law library or the internet.  NCdivorce.com is the most comprehensive divorce website in North Carolina. The site features a discussion forum with questions answered by lawyers, a child support calculator, the latest cases from the North Carolina Courts, numerous essays and information on all divorce issues, seminar videos, and lots more.   Reading the information on this site will dramatically improve your effectiveness and efficiency in interacting with your lawyer and negotiating with your spouse.

Lee S. Rosen is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist and founder of Rosen Divorce, the largest divorce firm in the Southeastern United States.  Rosen Divorce is a multidisciplinary practice of lawyers, counselors and accountants. Visit http://www.rosen.com for more information and articles.

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What Happens in a Marriage Counseling Session? By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=David_Cannell]David Cannell

What Happens in a Marriage Counseling Session?

There is no marriage that exists without problems. Nobody has a perfect relationship, a relationship is what you create when you work hard alongside somebody to create a life together. There will be good times and bad times, but marriage is about savoring the good times and being strong through the bad times to create a happy life together. When problems occur, many people try to go it alone and tough it out, not looking for help from anyone on the outside. In reality, there is plenty of help available for those who request it. Marriage counseling can help you through these times, strengthening your relationship and helping to solidify your future together.

Some are hesitant to attend a counseling session of any kind. They may feel that there is a stigma of sorts attached to those who seek counseling, or just feel uncomfortable in this kind of environment. Hundreds of thousand of people seek help form a counselor every year, achieving successful outcomes. A counseling session occurs in a very safe and non threatening environment.

A counseling session will take place usually at the counselors office. These are usually very welcoming environments, set out to look more like a home than a doctor's office. Your counselor should be friendly and approachable, you are going to need to feel comfortable talking about very personal issues with this person. If you do not feel comfortable with your counselor after the first session, you may wish to change to a different person.

Most first sessions are about the counselor getting to know you and tour partner. You will spend some time talking about yourselves and your marriage. Both of you will be able to bring up any issues that you feel are effecting the way you feel or your relationship. It is important to be as upfront and honest as you can at this point, this way you will get the most out of your session.

At the end of the session the counselor will speak to your about what has been raised in the session. He or she may give you some advise on how to better response to or deal with particular problems. There may be some things for both of you to try out over the next week. Although you may not agree with the counselor, it is a good idea to listen openly to what they have to say.

The counselor may recommend that you continue sessions, or simply give you some advise and not require you to return, it really depends on yourself, your partner and the problems you are facing. Many couples undertake weekly counseling sessions over a large amount of time, others may only visit once or twice.

Marriage counseling has been of help to many couples, improving and even saving marriages.

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